Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) includes the ability to shift out precise thinking about emotion and the ability to make use of emotions and communicative information to develop thought. After taking the stress self-assessment, I scored a sixty-seven and my friend assessment scored was seventy-three, We both have an average EQ yet our competencies ranked at different levels. Our assessment also indicated that we already practice some of the EQ behaviors. Additionally, emotional intelligence fluctuates how we reflect on intelligence skills and that emotional intelligence is a learned not acquired. This knowledge can be acquired at any moment in the life cycle (Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence, n.d.).  It is essential to consider there is a difference between learning about EQ and relate that knowledge to your life. To change actions in ways that create stress, you need to gain knowledge of how to conquer stress in the moment and in your interaction with others in order to remain emotionally responsive. We should not allow our emotions take over. To be sure our own emotional state is in control, we should be aware of our self –awareness, our social awareness, and our self-management. 

We have a tendency to attempt to overlook or limit unpleasant feelings, yet this keeps us from understanding those feelings. After discussing, the results of the stress assessment with my friend, we realized that when it comes to self-awareness we are close to the same given that we are aware of strengths and weakness and with added support, we could help each other. Becoming “in check” with our emotions is extremely imperative once entering a self-awareness situation. Often I would let my emotions often get the best of me and sometimes regulate more than what I say and do. Behavior often relates to low emotional intelligence or from being uninformed of one’s emotional state. Not being capable to regulate one’s low emotional intelligence or regulate emotions are some reasons why adolescents, as well as adults, are irresponsible and exhibit dangerous behavior, is one of the largest consequences of not knowing (Salcedo, 2013).  For this reason, while being around friends and especially staff, I try as much to be in touch with my emotions to create the normal work environment. Every day I adjust my emotional state to the demand of the work environment with a reaction that is suitable motivation and thought to be normal (Characteristics of an Emotionally Healthy Person, 2002).  As am a motivator for others I fall short of self-motivating, this is where I fair well on the stress assessment. Thus, having low emotional intelligence in this category shows my positive and negative mood subtly takes on a thinking style to care for others moods, but not tuned to my own (Bower, 2013). 

While falling short of my own motivation, it is imperative to consider there is a distinction between learning emotional intelligence and applying the information in your social life. Also, keeping in mind the goal is to change behaviors under pressure, you have to “check in” the best way to defeat stress in the time, and in relationships in order to remain emotional aware. Although my friend and myself mastering the social and empathy competencies I found that the assessment for one of us to be accurate. In spite of us, both finding common ground to build and have close relationships with different cultures, socially we both agree that she finds it somewhat difficult to handle most social situations (Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence, n.d.). While keeping our emotional state” in check” we have to ensure that we have the characteristics of an emotionally healthy person. Some of those consist of being at peace with our self and capable to have a workable and functional relationship (Characteristics of an Emotionally Healthy Person, 2002). Listening to family and peers, before we speak we keep our emotions under control by observing to ensure it will not be hostile to the individual during a conversation.

EQ is having the capacity to distinguish our own particular feelings as well as others. Self-management is a quality we incline toward those with whom we have a professional or personal relationship (Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence, n.d.). Again, in this section, my friend and I scored fairly well. This level of self-discipline and exertion is a level a few are unwilling to build. It is less demanding to execute what comes naturally than to act with restriction and nobility. With self-management, my friend does not generally think before she acts, but in a challenging situation will remain calm. I am the complete opposite. However, when reaching the point when exceedingly stress I tend to raise my voice without noticing my actions (Bower, 2013). This negative emotional state can build concerns and the quality of communication with family friends and others. There are various ways we can be “in check” with our feelings without the outcome that will influence our relationship with others.  Some factors are regulating our emotion under stress, the ability to control emotions within yourself; another is to divert your strong emotions to focus on mainly imperative or pressing issues involved when in this emotional state (Salcedo. R., 2013).  

In conclusion, emotionally healthy persons accept themselves and are self-aware of how their emotions affect others. They recognize they are capable of being altered at a particular moment in time (Characteristics of an Emotionally Healthy Person , 2002). People are capable of self-management by being aware of emotions to make the right decision. People with low emotional intelligence have changes in their mood that fluctuates, they are not “in check” with their emotional state. Scoring sixty- seven out of one hundred after taking, the stress assessment test which is average, I learned a lot regarding others and myself. Emotional intelligence captures the amounts to which people take care to recognize, comprehend, manage, and use their emotions and those of others.

References

Assessing Your Emotional Intelligence. ( n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.mhhe.com/business/management/buildyourmanagementskills/updated_flash/topic5a/quiz.html

Bower, B. (2013). The bright side of sadness: Bad moods can have unappreciated mental upsides. Science News, 18-21. 4p.

Characteristics of an Emotionally Healthy Person. (2002). Mobility Forum: the Journal of the Air Command’s Magazine, 11(6), 21.

Salcedo. R., K. J. (2013). Intelligence, Emotional. Encyclopedia of Special Education: A reference for the Education of Children, Adolescents, and Adults with Disabilities and Other Exceptional Individuals, (4th ed.). Hoboken, NJ: Wiley. Retrieved from Retrieved from http://lopes.idm.oclc.org/login? https://search.credoreference.com/content/entry/wileyse/intelligence_emotional/0?institutionId=5865